Life comes with a lot of pressure
Generally, in life, there’s a lot of peer pressure. This is either a negative peer pressure or a positive peer pressure. However, the struggle is with the negative forms of peer pressure. Very often, many people are led into things that they do not intend to do. A lot of people get into smoking, gambling, alcoholism, sex, womanizing, and any others because of peer pressure. These things result in addictions, and when you want to break away from, they become difficult. However, I don’t want you to fret because I am going to teach you about how to overcome peer pressure.
Why must you resist peer pressure?
Satan will flee from you
“Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”James 4:7 ESV
If you can resist the enemy all those bad habits that come to destroy you, like smoking and the like, along with their sicknesses will flee from you.
Peer pressure can lead you into terrible situations like bad marriages and even jail time. When you easily give in yo peer pressure you’re only setting yourself up for failure in life. One bad decision can ruin your life forever.
So that bad habits don’t destroy you
What you achieve in life is because of your character. It is not what you do that makes you great. Rather, it is who you are that makes you great.
Habits develop character. This means that good habits will help build good character while bad habits will help form bad character. Bad character will then produce someone who will not amount to much. In this case, you become an easy target for the devil. He will always joke with your life.
Steps to overcome peer pressure
“A prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself: but the simple pass on, and are punished.”Proverbs 22:3 KJV
Firstly, you should be able to anticipate when peer pressure happens. If you are being forced to do something by your friends, and you know it is not something you had any intention doing, then, peer pressure is on the horizon. Peer pressure does not happen when you’re in class learning, or at home helping your parents or siblings out.
Ask yourself, “When does it usually happen?”. Does it happen when you are with friends? Or it happens at a particular time in the day or night?
“But solid food is for people who have grown up. From their experience they have learned to see the difference between good and evil.”Hebrews 5:14 ERV
Thinking here speaks about your ability to note what is right or wrong. First, write down the advantages and disadvantages of whatever action you are about to take. You should do this after you have discovered when peer pressure happens.
Do not worry about missing out on those friendships. They are not going to lead you anywhere good. Moreover, after school, you will not see most of those friends who are currently putting pressure on you to do the wrong things.
Also, you may have to do this with a trusted person because you may not be in the best frame of mind to do it. This could be a parent, pastor, mentor or a good friend who has your best interests at heart.
“No, the word is very near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart so you may obey it. See, I set before you today life and prosperity, death and destruction. For I command you today to love the Lord your God, to walk in obedience to him, and to keep his commands, decrees and laws; then you will live and increase, and the Lord your God will bless you in the land you are entering to possess.”Deuteronomy 30:14-16 NIV
The next step to overcome peer pressure is that you need to decide that it is wrong. You are at a stage where you may not know that something is wrong because you may not have experienced it yet. But those who are ahead of you would have the experience to tell you why it is wrong.
After, doing the thinking, you will now see life and good as opposed to bad and evil. This is where you must now decide. Will you go for death to your destiny or life to your destiny?
“People enjoy giving good advice. Saying the right word at the right time is so pleasing.”Proverbs 15:23 NCV
Act! When you take action on the right choices they may laugh at you. But you need to understand that this crowd are just empty headed and mindless people who have nothing good to offer you. They are the same people who will laugh at you when you do not get to live a good life because of the bad decisions they pressured you into making.
Find Christian friends
“Spend time with the wise and you will become wise, but the friends of fools will suffer.”Proverbs 13:20 NCV
Peer pressure comes because of the peers you have. Therefore, change your friends, and the pressure will reduce. Keep company with Christian friends who will inspire you to serve God or people who will inspire you to fight for a great future instead of people who will introduce you to things you will be fighting to overcome in the future. Join some Christian fellowships or groups if you are in school and be committed. As a result, you will be spared any unnecessary peer pressure.
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