Over the past few weeks, I have been sharing on some important things to do while dating. These are things you must know and do when it comes to dating. In this episode, I want to share with you on some very important things you can do to make the most of your dating period.
Grow together spiritually
Focus on growing together spiritually while dating. This is very important. You have invest time in building your spiritual lives together. Life is spiritual and there are many things going on around us that we do not see that plan to attack and humiliate us. So, if there is something good you can do for each other, it must be that you grow together spiritually.
You can do this by sharing your quiet time together, praying together, going to church together, and serving in church together. When you do this, you both grow knowing God everyday.
Do not leave the other to go on on their own because “two are better than one” (Ecclesiastes 4:9).
When both of you are spiritually strong, it will be very difficult for the enemy to find a gap to come in and destroy the relationship.
Grow your friendship
What many people don’t realize is that sex takes up only a small portion of your day. Sex may last some few minutes out of the full 24hrs we have. You can’t use all this time talking and having sex. You need to find something to do other than sex while dating.
Determine to grow your friendship together because this is what is going to sustain your relationship. You can do this by having honest conversations. You can also share jokes and laugh together. Remember, this is to help you build a deep committed relationship with each other.
Also, do well to be honest with each other while you practice openness and sincerity. You should be able to share your past, your present and future goals together.
If you need help with starting conversations, you can get Garry Chapman’s 101 Conversation Starters for Couples. It is a great place to start your friendship journey together.
Grow together Financially
I believe that one of the greatest blessings one can ever have is to marry early. This is because you get to build your lives together. You get to build your financial lives together, and because “two are better than one they will receive a better reward for their labour.”
If there’s one secret I’ve learned, it is that the more you build wealth together, the faster you go.
Universities and schools do not teach you about money. The only way to learn about money is to make an intentional effort to learn about money. But because people come from different backgrounds, there are a lot of diverse thoughts about money. This is why you must decide to learn about money together while dating and even after the marriage. There is so much to learn and you can start by going to financial peace university. I
Know each other’s value system.
Use your time together to learn about each other’s value system while dating. This is important because if you have different value systems, the tendency to divorce is very high. Get Norman Wright’s 101 questions to ask before you get engaged. This will be a valuable resource for both of you. So, instead of focusing on sex, spend time knowing about each other’s values about people, eternity, how to raise your kids, money, the professional life, and many more.
Do not put yourself in a position where you will eventually end up being surprised about your spouse’s attitude to work or something that you may or may not be serious about.
When you decide to go into each other’s value system you’ll get to know about any warning signs or red flags that you need to be wary of.
Make sure you set boundaries especially when it comes to display of affection. You can say that you will not be at his place or her place past 9pm.
In order not to find yourself in situations that will lead to compromise, you need to have other activities that will help keep yourself. To help with this, I will recommend the 52 Uncommon Dates by Randy Southern.
If you do well to practice these things, you will set yourself up for a beautiful life with your spouse.